💥 Why Does My Child Have So Many Meltdowns?

Hey lovely grown-ups,

If you’ve landed here because you typed

“why does my child have so many meltdowns?”

or you’re in the middle of yet another explosion and wondering what on earth you’re doing wrong…

Pause for a moment.

You’re not failing.

Your child isn’t broken.

And you’re not alone in this.

Meltdowns are one of the biggest worries parents bring to us. They’re loud, messy, exhausting, and they often show up right when everyone is running on empty. This guide will help you understand what’s really going on during meltdowns and, more importantly, what actually helps in a way that’s realistic, gentle, and made for real family life.

No judgement.

No “just be calmer”.

Just support, tools, and a whole lot of compassion.

Welcome to Worley’s World 🌈👻💛

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💥 What’s Actually Happening During a Meltdown

(And why it’s not bad behaviour)

When a child is in meltdown, their brain isn’t choosing chaos.

Here’s what’s happening underneath:

• their emotional brain hits overload

• their thinking brain goes offline

• their body floods with stress energy

• words, logic, and listening disappear

In that moment, your child isn’t being naughty. Their brain is shouting “I’m overwhelmed!”

This is why:

• reasoning doesn’t work

• consequences don’t land

• asking lots of questions can make things worse

And it’s also why meltdowns often happen:

• at bedtime

• after school

• in busy places like supermarkets

• when they’ve “held it together” all day

It’s not manipulation.

It’s nervous system overload.

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This is where the Worley’s World approach really matters.

🌈 The Worley’s World Model

Inspire → Nurture → Educate

This simple model sits at the heart of everything we do at Worley’s World.

It helps both children and grown-ups move from overwhelm to calm in a way that actually works.

Here’s the parent-friendly version:

✨ Inspire

Help your child want to connect.

This is about playful invitations, stories, curiosity, and emotional language.

Connection starts before correction ever will.

💛 Nurture

Regulate the nervous system.

This is the most important stage during meltdowns.

It’s where we help bodies feel safe again so the thinking brain can come back online.

Most “behaviour problems” live right here in overwhelm, not defiance.

🌱 Educate

Teach skills once everyone feels calm.

This is when children can actually learn:

• boundaries

• problem-solving

• emotional language

• repair

• confidence

The order matters.

Jumping straight to teaching when a child is overwhelmed doesn’t work, no matter how calm your words are.

This same approach also sits at the heart of Rainbow Rebels, where we support grown-ups first, because regulated parents are one of the biggest gifts we can give children.

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🌈 A Quick Pause Before We Go On…

If you’re reading this thinking

“Why has no one explained it like this before?” you’re not alone.

If you’d like some gentle, no-pressure support to start with, you can subscribe for free and receive:

• a video of Jodi reading When Worley Gets Brave

• a simple activity sheet to help your child connect with Worley

These are designed to help children feel safe, seen, and supported, and to give you something calm and grounding you can use at home straight away.

Click subscribe if that feels helpful 💛

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🌟 Five Gentle Things That Help During Big Feelings

1. Lower the pressure

Fewer words. Slower movements. Get down to their level.

Calm bodies help calm brains.

2. Name the need, not the behaviour

Instead of “What’s wrong?” try:

“Is your body feeling too tired, too hungry, or too full of feelings?”

Needs feel safer than emotions.

3. Regulate first, teach later

Ask yourself:

“Are they overwhelmed, or ready to learn?”

If overwhelmed → Nurture

If calm → Educate

4. Offer two calm choices

“Hug or space?”

“Sit here or there?”

Choice creates safety.

Safety brings calm.

5. Connection before correction

A simple

“I’m here. We’ll sort this together.”

can soften a nervous system faster than any consequence.

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🧠 One Team, Two Nervous Systems

When grown-ups regulate, children regulate. When grown-ups feel safe, children feel safe.

I see this every day with the families I support. When the grown-up softens, the whole environment changes. Meltdowns don’t mean you’re doing it wrong. They mean your child needs support, not punishment. That’s why Worley’s World exists, to give families playful tools, emotional language, and realistic strategies that fit into everyday life.

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💛 Ready for Your Next Step?

✨ 1. Download the Meltdown Response Flowchart

If you want something simple to guide you in the moment, our meltdown response flowchart walks you through what to do when big feelings hit.

Meltdown Response Flowchart.pdf

Download PDF • 552KB

✨ 2. Subscribe for free Worley support

Receive:

• a video reading of When Worley Gets Brave

• a matching activity sheet for your child

Subscribe

✨ 3. Explore the Worley’s World Parent Hub

Learn more about the model, explore resources, and see how the membership supports families long-term.

Parents Hub

🌈 A Final Note for You

Meltdowns are hard.

Parenting through them is even harder.

But you’re showing up.

You’re learning.

And that matters more than perfection ever could.

This guide is just one step.

But it’s a powerful one.

We’re right here with you.

You’ve got this 👻💛🌈